I think I’m Ace! …Now What?

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First of all I’d like to reassure you that there’s nothing wrong with being asexual.

One key thing to understand about asexuality is that it is not a choice or a disorder.

Why didn’t anyone tell me about this?

I have trauma — what if I’m not really ace?

Do I have to come out?

I’m dating someone who isn’t ace— will they still want me?

What if I’m still not sure that I’m ace?

It is okay to be ace.

I am a 28 year old gray ace advocate for asexuality and other queer identities. I also advocate for mental health and disability.

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